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“Be courteous to all, but intimate with few; and let those few be well-tried before you give them your confidence.”
George Washington

A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24 (NASB)

P.S. – thank you Alex for being a source of information.

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I am reading “The Narcissism Epidemic.” It is scary. We are all in danger of adding to a growing cultural phenomenon that is quite destructive and opposite of the gospel.
Parenting is very important in the process of Narcissistic Development. Our worship of our children and grandchildren plays a major role.

Here is an excerpt from chapter 5.

“parenting is an incredibly powerful force for spreading cultural values. From our parents we learn right and wrong, how to treat others, political and economic beliefs, prejudice or tolerance, and manners or lack of manners. Parenting has a big impact on children because parents are the first one there (may I add the main ones there and with the most influence even in the teen years regardless of what authors say).”

“Here are a few steps parents can take to temper (notice the word is temper not prevent) narcissistic impulses in their children:
– Say no and mean it
– Don’t give your child too much power
– Carefully consider the messages you are sending to your children about competition and winning
– Think twice before you buy your kid something that announces how great he is.”
“The Narcissism Epidemic” by Jean W. Twenge, Ph.D. and W. Keith Campbell, Ph.d.

If I may take a moment and make 2 comments.
The narcissism epidemic is affecting all of us. The younger generation is being exposed to “me” more than any other generation. It is beginning to explode which will lead to an implosion first in families, church, society and eventually nationally. Literally the narcissism epidemic places an emphasis on our goodness which emphasises not our self-image but how great we are. It gives a false image of life. It perverts the gospel. It affects everything. Eventually as the epidemic grows and morphs just like a virus, we will return to the days of old when in the book of Kings “everyone did what was right in their own eyes.” That will not include just the world but inside the church as well. Continue reading

Credit: Washington Times

Who Won Baseball’s Offseason?
As Spring Training Kicks In, We Count Every Team’s Hot Stove Deals—and Rate Them; Cleaning Up in BaltimoreBy SCOTT CACCIOLA AND JARED DIAMOND
During the typical baseball offseason, more than 100 players change cities, sparking a complicated dance that generates endless debate about who cleaned up and who flopped.

To be included in their team’s ranking, players had to have pitched at least 40 innings or played 50 games last season. The numbers don’t include players who signed extensions or prospects who are expected to play significant roles.The Wall Street Journal examined every transaction made this winter and ranked each major-league team by the volume of moves it made and the net quality of the players it ended up with. The quality numbers are based on projected 2011 Wins Above Replacement, a statistic baseball wonks use to determine a player’s value compared to an average Triple-A scrub (Each team’s net WAR as well as each player’s projected value is listed in parentheses).

1. Baltimore Orioles (9.0)

Key acquisitions: 1B Derrek Lee (3.5), SS J.J. Hardy (2.9), 3B Mark Reynolds (2.4), RF Vladimir Guerrero (2.0)Key loss: SP Kevin Millwood (1.9) Outlook: While other teams made bigger splashes, the Orioles quietly reinvented their infield. The changes should help them do much better than 66-96.

2. Milwaukee Brewers (5.3)

Key acquisitions: SP Zack Greinke (5.2), SP Shaun Marcum (1.5), RP Takashi Saito (1.10) Key loss: C Gregg Zaun (1.0) Outlook: Greinke and Marcum make the Brewers a legitimate playoff contender—unless they decide to trade Prince Fielder.

3. St. Louis Cardinals (4.4)

Key acquisitions: OF Lance Berkman (4.3), SS Ryan Theriot (1.8) Key losses: OF Randy Winn (2.0), IF Brendan Ryan (1.3) Outlook: News that Adam Wainwright may miss the season derailed a nice winter. Let the Carpenter-to-Yankees rumors fly.

4. Washington Nationals (3.8)

Key acquisitions: OF Jayson Werth (5.0), 1B Adam LaRoche (2.1) Key losses: OF Josh Willingham (2.7), 1B Adam Dunn (2.1) Outlook: The Nationals made serious offseason noise for the first time since moving inside the Beltway.

4. Oakland Athletics (3.8)

Key acquisitions: OF David DeJesus (2.8), LF Josh Willingham (2.7), LF/DH Hideki Matsui (1.8) Key losses: DH/OF Jack Cust (1.8), CF Rajai Davis (1.6) Outlook: The A’s upgraded their outfield without damaging one of the game’s top pitching staffs.

6. Cleveland Indians (2.6)

Key acquisition: SS Orlando Cabrera (1.9) Key losses: NoneOutlook: The Indians fared well because they didn’t lose anyone—then again, they didn’t have much to lose.

7. Pittsburgh Pirates (1.8)

Key acquisitions: 1B Lyle Overbay (2.0), SP Kevin Correia (0.8)Key losses: Zach Duke (1.3), Lastings Milledge (0.5) Outlook:The Pirates addition of Overbay helps them, but it’s too little, too late.

8. Boston Red Sox (1.8)

Key acquisitions: 1B Adrian Gonzalez (5.2), LF Carl Crawford (5.0) Key losses: 3B Adrian Beltre (4.5), C Victor Martinez (3.0)Outlook: Boston spent lavishly to piece together one of the modern era’s most dynamic top-to-bottom batting orders.

9. Chicago Cubs (1.8)

Key acquisitions: 1B Carlos Pena (2.6), SP Matt Garza (2.1), RP Kerry Wood (0.8) Key losses: 1B Derrek Lee (3.5) Outlook: The Cubs may have gotten the most bang for their buck with Garza and Pena.

10. Seattle Mariners (1.3)

Key acquisitions: C Miguel Olivo (2.1), IF Adam Kennedy (1.4)Key losses: 1B Russell Branyan (2.0), IF Jose Lopez (1.9)Outlook: Nothing against the newcomers, but the Mariners probably needed to do more.

11. Houston Astros (0.49)

Key acquisition: SS Clint Barmes (1.3) Key losses: NoneOutlook: The Astros more or less punted this offseason.

12. New York Mets (0.4)

Key acquisition: OF Scott Hairston (1.5) Key loss: 1B Fernando Tatis (1.2) Outlook: The Mets made a lot of teensy moves that kept them in the middle of the pack.

13. Arizona Diamondbacks (0.2)

Key acquisitions: 1B Russell Branyan (2.0), SP Zach Duke (1.3)Key losses: 3B Mark Reynolds (2.4), 1B Adam LaRoche (2.1) Outlook: Arizona will no doubt miss Reynolds and LaRoche’s 57 combined homers.

14. L.A. Dodgers (0.1)

Key acquisitions: SP Jon Garland (1.4), 2B Juan Uribe (2.1) Key loss: C Russell Martin (2.9) Outlook: A case of quantity over quality. The Dodgers’ nine additions probably won’t help them improve on a sub-.500 season.

15. Detroit Tigers (-0.6)

Key acquisition: C Victor Martinez (3.0) Key loss: LF Johnny Damon (3.0) Outlook: The Tigers made few moves, but Martinez’s offsets losing Damon.

16. Philadelphia Phillies (-0.8)

Key acquisition: SP Cliff Lee (5.6) Key loss: OF Jayson Werth (5.0) Outlook: The Phillies scored a coup by signing Lee, but gave up nearly as much by parting company with Werth.

16. San Francisco Giants (-0.8)

Key acquisition: SS Miguel Tejada (2.4) Key losses: 3B Juan Uribe (2.0), SS Edgar Renteria (1.0) Outlook:The Giants apparently spent the offseason recovering from the effects of all that World Series bubbly.

18. Florida Marlins (-1.1)

Key acquisitions: SP Javier Vazquez (3.0), 2B Omar Infante (1.6) Key loss: 2B Dan Uggla (4.2) Outlook: The Marlins are banking on Vazquez being better in the NL (4.02 career ERA) than in the AL (4.65 career ERA).

19. Los Angeles Angels (-2.4)

Key acquisition: CF Vernon Wells (1.8) Key losses: C Mike Napoli (2.7), LF/DH Hideki Matsui (1.8) Outlook:After whiffing on some free-agents, the Angels struck a deal with the Blue Jays for Wells, whose $23-million salary scared most clubs.

20. Atlanta Braves (-2.6)

Key acquisition: 2B Dan Uggla (4.2) Key loss: 1B Troy Glaus (1.9), Outlook: The Braves added some pop up the middle by trading for Uggla, who hit 33 home runs for the Marlins last season.

21. Texas Rangers (-2.7)

Key acquisitions: 3B Adrian Beltre (4.5), C Mike Napoli (2.7) Key losses: SP Cliff Lee (5.6), RF Vladimir Guerrero (2.0), C Bengie Molina (1.8), SP Rich Harden (1.5) Outlook: The American League champs added a nice piece in Napoli. Too bad he can’t throw an 88-mph cut fastball.

22. Colorado Rockies (-3.0)

Key acquisition: IF Jose Lopez (1.9) Key loss: C Miguel Olivo (2.1) Outlook: Colorado didn’t bring in many players this offseason (That’s what happens when you spend $120 million on Troy Tulowitzki).

23. Chicago White Sox (-3.3)

Key acquisition: LF/1B Adam Dunn (2.1) Key loss: OF/DH Manny Ramirez (3.5) Outlook: Chicago also lost Freddy Garcia, Bobby Jenks and J.J. Putz. But some AL Central foes had bigger talent drains (see: Twins).

24. Cincinnati Reds (-3.9)

Key acquisitions: None. Key losses: SS Orlando Cabrera (1.9), SP Aaron Harang (1.7) Outlook: Don’t panic: this surprise playoff team still has the reigning league MVP and a solid rotation.

25. Toronto Blue Jays (-4.9)

Key acquisitions: CF Rajai Davis (1.6) Key losses: 1B Lyle Overbay (2.0), CF Vernon Wells (1.88) Outlook: The Blue Jays have come to resemble a sort of desperate fantasy team, piling up speed and former closers.

26. New York Yankees (-6.4)

Key acquisitions: C Russell Martin (2.9), RP Rafael Soriano (1.0) Key losses: OF/1B Lance Berkman (4.3), SP Javier Vazquez (3.0), SP Andy Pettitte (2.8) Outlook: The Yankees didn’t address their need for starting pitching, but they’re still nicely stocked.

27. Kansas City Royals (-6.5)

Key acquisitions: None. Key losses: SP Zack Greinke (5.2), OF David DeJesus (2.8) Outlook: The loss of Greinke alone makes this a massive debacle.

27. San Diego Padres (-6.5)

Key acquisitions: 2B Orlando Hudson (2.5), SS Jason Bartlett (2.5) Key losses: 1B Adrian Gonzalez (5.2), 3B Miguel Tejada (2.4), IF Jerry Hairston (1.8) Outlook: There’s no way to sugarcoat this one. Adrian Gonzalez was practically their entire offense last season.

29. Minnesota Twins (-8.4)

Key acquisition: None. Key losses: SS J.J. Hardy (2.9), 2B Orlando Hudson (2.5), IF Nick Punto (1.7) Outlook:This one looks like a train wreck. Joe Mauer’s $184-million deal didn’t leave much room to grow.

30. Tampa Bay Rays (-10.6)

Key acquisitions: OF/DH Manny Ramirez (3.5), LF Johnny Damon (3.0) Key losses: LF Carl Crawford (5.0), 1B Carlos Pena (2.6), SS Jason Bartlett (2.5), SP Matt Garza (2.1) Outlook: Forced to cut payroll, the Rays may have given up a huge amount of talent.

—Matthew Futterman contributed to this article

Very soon a new law will be put on the books that makes driving while talking on the cell phone illegal unless you are using a hands free device.  Check out the latest and cost effective means.

P.S. I credit my old friend John Parlette with this new information. 

I am thinking about becoming a local distributor.  🙂

Check out the general American angst at all institutions at:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/cleanprint/CleanPrintProxy.aspx?1284685347190

NCC poll suggests a broader angst, with public confidence lagging in many of society’s pillars.

Glum and distrusting, a majority of Americans today are very confident in — nobody.

Organized religion was next at 18 percent.

Check out this link

http://www.caregiverstress.com/2010/07/a-reminder-that-laughter-is-the-best

Next Generation Ministry: Why Youth Matter Now More Than Ever

Melissa Kelley, August 2010

Eric Larsen, director of Global Youth and Family Ministry (GYFM), has a personal passion for reaching youth. As a missionary kid and pastor’s kid, Larsen was on his 12th move, eighth school, and third continent by the time he reached eighth grade. Here, Eric talks with byFaith about GYFM’s mission:  to “reach the nations and the next generation” through caring for Mission to the World missionaries and their children, and by training those who seek to influence global youth culture.

Why is ministry to youth more critical now than at any other time in history?

Reaching the next generation is a must for the church—and the church should always have that orientation. We see in the Bible that God is always reconciling generations to one another, and that the burden is on the older to reach out to the younger—not the other way around.

But several things are unique at this point in history. More and more, the church is emptying of young people. There is an exploding global youth population (by the end of this year, 50 percent of the world’s population will be under the age of 25—that’s three billion people). Also, there’s the phenomenon of the extension of adolescence around the world. Kids are thrust into adolescence earlier and earlier and are extending it later and later. Now, it’s common for that period to stretch from 10 to 30 years old.

We’re also seeing a global youth culture where kids have more in common with one another than with the adults around them. Some of the key factors causing that include media, technology, and the common experience of abandonment.

How would you like to see the church engage with youth?

Adults are not engaging young people. We have to raise up an army of folks who will engage young people together, as a church. We need a community of faith to rally around kids and care for them. It’s a great opportunity for the gospel, for a church to say, “We’re going to go after these kids.” We want to equip leaders to mobilize the adult community of faith to do that, to be catalysts, to become champions of the cause, to become a resource for their local area. And we want to ground them biblically and theologically to do that work.

Recently a mom in her late 60’s left her job to rescue her 40 year old son.  As the story unfolds, he has addiction issues, basically living free in mom’s house, unemployed, living with a woman who put him in jail, there is a child in the middle of all this but it is not his and so on and so on.

Mom is rescuing her adult child AGAIN.  Everyone tells her to leave him in jail.  She can’t.  She went down to spend several thousand more dollars.  She wants to kick out the woman but guess where he will run after he gets out of jail?  We all know…and it won’t be mom.

I understand a mom’s desire to care for her son.  I know, my son in his early 20’s had major issues.  We rescuded him.  He also knows that there will not be a second time.  Not that we would not extend grace and love him but there is no money but more than anything, everyone deserves a second chance to learn lessons.  However, you don’t learn the lessons…especially as an adult…it’s your life.  I hate it.  He is my son.  I love him.  But, that is the way I see it.  You get grace…but when you abuse it…it’s up to you to figure it out.  I know, I sound harsh.  Not really.

Check out this link: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/22/magazine/22Adulthood-t.html?_r=1&emc=eta1&pagewanted=all

It is an article about 20 year olds and how they just are not growing up. 

Personally I don’t think it needs a long article.  How I see it:

1.  Parents who have their issues and early on tried to find the love they want from their kids instead of God and thier spouse.

2.  Growing narcissim within our culture.

3.  Image is everything.

4.  Enablers, enablers, enablers

5.  God is no longer sovereign, my money is (what a joke). 

One other stat I saw recently…boys used to move out of adolesence by the age of 21.  Recent studies show boys with major signs of adolesence up to and around the age of 28.  We wonder where all the good men have gone???

I forgot…one other thing…when we really think we can live in a pain free world, we will do everything to keep our children from it.  Problem is…we learn the best lessons of life from the pain it offers.

Source:  www.beloit.edu

The Beloit College Mindset List for the Class of 2014

Most students entering college for the first time this fall—the Class of 2014—were born in 1992.

For these students, Benny Hill, Sam Kinison, Sam Walton, Bert Parks and Tony Perkins have always been dead.

1. Few in the class know how to write in cursive.

2. Email is just too slow, and they seldom if ever use snail mail.

3. “Go West, Young College Grad” has always implied “and don’t stop until you get to Asia…and learn Chinese along the way.”

4. Al Gore has always been animated.

5. Los Angelenos have always been trying to get along.

6. Buffy has always been meeting her obligations to hunt down Lothos and the other blood-suckers at Hemery High.

7. “Caramel macchiato” and “venti half-caf vanilla latte” have always been street corner lingo.

8. With increasing numbers of ramps, Braille signs, and handicapped parking spaces, the world has always been trying harder to accommodate people with disabilities.

9. Had it remained operational, the villainous computer HAL could be their college classmate this fall, but they have a better chance of running into Miley Cyrus’s folks on Parents’ Weekend.

10. A quarter of the class has at least one immigrant parent, and the immigration debate is not a big priority…unless it involves “real” aliens from another planet.

11. John McEnroe has never played professional tennis.

12. Clint Eastwood is better known as a sensitive director than as Dirty Harry.

13. Parents and teachers feared that Beavis and Butt-head might be the voice of a lost generation.

14. Doctor Kevorkian has never been licensed to practice medicine.

15. Colorful lapel ribbons have always been worn to indicate support for a cause.

16. Korean cars have always been a staple on American highways.

17. Trading Chocolate the Moose for Patti the Platypus helped build their Beanie Baby collection.

18. Fergie is a pop singer, not a princess.

19. They never twisted the coiled handset wire aimlessly around their wrists while chatting on the phone.

20. DNA fingerprinting and maps of the human genome have always existed.

21. Woody Allen, whose heart has wanted what it wanted, has always been with Soon-Yi Previn.

22. Cross-burning has always been deemed protected speech.

23. Leasing has always allowed the folks to upgrade their tastes in cars.

24. “Cop Killer” by rapper Ice-T has never been available on a recording.

25. Leno and Letterman have always been trading insults on opposing networks.

26. Unless they found one in their grandparents’ closet, they have never seen a carousel of Kodachrome slides.

27. Computers have never lacked a CD-ROM disk drive.

28. They’ve never recognized that pointing to their wrists was a request for the time of day.

29. Reggie Jackson has always been enshrined in Cooperstown.

30. “Viewer Discretion” has always been an available warning on TV shows.

31. The first computer they probably touched was an Apple II; it is now in a museum.

32. Czechoslovakia has never existed.

33. Second-hand smoke has always been an official carcinogen.

34. “Assisted Living” has always been replacing nursing homes, while Hospice has always been an alternative to hospitals.

35. Once they got through security, going to the airport has always resembled going to the mall.

36. Adhesive strips have always been available in varying skin tones.

37. Whatever their parents may have thought about the year they were born, Queen Elizabeth declared it an “Annus Horribilis.”

38. Bud Selig has always been the Commissioner of Major League Baseball.

39. Pizza jockeys from Domino’s have never killed themselves to get your pizza there in under 30 minutes.

40. There have always been HIV positive athletes in the Olympics.

41. American companies have always done business in Vietnam.

42. Potato has always ended in an “e” in New Jersey per vice presidential edict.

43. Russians and Americans have always been living together in space.

44. The dominance of television news by the three networks passed while they were still in their cribs.

45. They have always had a chance to do community service with local and federal programs to earn money for college.

46. Nirvana is on the classic oldies station.

47. Children have always been trying to divorce their parents.

48. Someone has always gotten married in space.

49. While they were babbling in strollers, there was already a female Poet Laureate of the United States.

50. Toothpaste tubes have always stood up on their caps.

51.  Food has always been irradiated.

52. There have always been women priests in the Anglican Church.

53. J.R. Ewing has always been dead and gone. Hasn’t he? 

54. The historic bridge at Mostar in Bosnia has always been a copy.

55. Rock bands have always played at presidential inaugural parties.

56. They may have assumed that parents’ complaints about Black Monday had to do with punk rockers from L.A., not Wall Street.

57. A purple dinosaur has always supplanted Barney Google and Barney Fife. 

58. Beethoven has always been a dog.

59. By the time their folks might have noticed Coca Cola’s new Tab Clear, it was gone.

60. Walmart has never sold handguns over the counter in the lower 48.

61. Presidential appointees have always been required to be more precise about paying their nannies’ withholding tax, or else.

62. Having hundreds of cable channels but nothing to watch has always been routine. 

63. Their parents’ favorite TV sitcoms have always been showing up as movies.

64. The U.S, Canada, and Mexico have always agreed to trade freely.

65. They first met Michelangelo when he was just a computer virus.

66. Galileo is forgiven and welcome back into the Roman Catholic Church.

67. Ruth Bader Ginsburg has always sat on the Supreme Court.

68. They have never worried about a Russian missile strike on the U.S.

69. The Post Office has always been going broke.

70. The artist formerly known as Snoop Doggy Dogg has always been rapping.

71. The nation has never approved of the job Congress is doing.

72. One way or another, “It’s the economy, stupid” and always has been.

73. Silicone-gel breast implants have always been regulated.

74. They’ve always been able to blast off with the Sci-Fi Channel.

75. Honda has always been a major competitor on Memorial Day at Indianapolis.

I don’t know where it comes from but it is funny…

Dear Mom & Dad,

Our Scoutmaster told us to write to our parents in case you saw the flood on TV and are worried. We are okay. Only one of our tents and 2 sleeping bags got washed away. Luckily, none of us got drowned because we were all up on the mountain looking for Adam when it happened.

Oh yes, please call Adam’s mother and tell her he is okay. He can’t write because of the cast. I got to ride in one of the search and rescue jeeps. It was neat. We never would have found Adam in the dark if it hadn’t been for the lightning.

Scoutmaster Ted got mad at Adam for going on a hike alone without telling anyone. Adam said he did tell him, but it was during the fire so he probably didn’t hear him. Did you know that if you put petrol on a fire, the petrol will blow up?

The wet wood didn’t burn, but one of the tents did and also some of our clothes. Matthew is going to look weird until his hair grows back.

We will be home on Saturday if Scoutmaster Ted gets the bus fixed. It wasn’t his fault about the crash. The brakes worked okay when we left. Scoutmaster Ted said that with a bus that old, you have to expect something to break down; that’s probably why he can’t get insurance.

We think it’s a neat bus. He doesn’t care if we get it dirty, and if it’s hot, sometimes he lets us ride on the roof. It gets pretty hot with 45 people in a bus made for 24. He let us take turns riding in the trailer until the policeman stopped and talked to us.

Scoutmaster Ted is a neat guy.. Don’t worry, he is a good driver. In fact, he is teaching Jessie how to drive on the mountain roads where there aren’t any cops. All we ever see up there are logging trucks.

This morning all of the guys were diving off the rocks and swimming out to the rapids. Scoutmaster Ted wouldn’t let me because I can’t swim, and Adam was afraid he would sink because of his cast (it’s concrete because we didn’t have any plaster), so he let us take the canoe out. It was great. You can still see some of the trees under the water from the flood.

Scoutmaster Ted isn’t crabby like some scoutmasters. He didn’t even get mad about the life jackets. He has to spend a lot of time working on the bus so we are trying not to cause him any trouble.

Guess what? We have all passed our first aid merit badges. When Andrew dived into the lake and cut his arm, we got to see how a tourniquet works.

Steven and I threw up, but Scoutmaster Ted said it probably was just food poisoning from the left-over chicken. He said they got sick that way with food they ate in prison. I have to go now. We are going to town to post our letters. Don’t worry about anything.

See you soon.